Real Dates. Real Chemistry. Real messy stories later.
You've swiped yourself numb. Your thumbs are tired, your AceSpace prompts are hackneyed, and that "let's grab a drink sometime" never seems to happen.
Cuff It: Ace Slow Dating is your reset button - a curated, hosted, 90-minute dating night for asexual folks who actually want to meet... in real life... in New York City.
No apps. No ghosting. Just eye contact, drag, and a room full of people who showed up on purpose.
Cuff It is HKNY Entertainment's asexual slow-dating experience:
40 daters max so the room feels full, not chaotic
Hosted by drag icons (think Stasi, Lola Latte, Cunning Stunt, Liz BN)
Structured rounds of 1:1 9-minute mini-dates
Music, cocktails, and performances between rounds
You're not trapped at a bar hoping someone talks to you about something interesting.
You're in a room where noone is there to flirt, kiki, and maybe find their next situationship... or spouse... or favorite mistake.
6:00 - 6:50PM - Check-In & Cocktails
Grab your name tag with your number on it at the front. Grab a drink at the bar. Meet the queens, meet the room.
6:30 - 6:50PM - Welcome & Opening Numbers
Your drag hosts set the vibe and perform to get everyone loosened up.
6:50 - 7:00PM - Rules & Etiquette
An explanation of the rules so we're all on the same page.
7:00 - 8:30PM - Speed Dating Rounds
You'll have a series of 9 minute 1:1 dates.
One side of the table rotates each round to keep things flowing and balanced.
Between blocks of rounds, there are breaks where you can grab a drink, collect your thoughts, debrief with your Wingmen, tip the drag artists while they perform during the break. We want to make sure you don't burn out!
8:30PM - 8:45PM - Final Round & Closing Remarks
The tenth round of speed dating and explanation of next steps by the hosts.
After the event
By midnight, you send us your picks.
The next day, we email your mutual matches and invite you back to the next Cuff It as our guest to have your official first date - with optional pre- and post-date interviews with the queens.
No awkward "so... can I get your number?" at the event. We handle the logistics. You handle the chemistry.
Cuff It: Ace Slow Dating is for asexual folks who are:
Tired of app purgatory
New to NYC and want to meet people fast
Back on the market and ready to flirt again
In the "I don't know what I'm looking for but I'd like options" era
Looking for dates, friends, thingfriends, situationships, spouses for tax or child-rearing purposes, or just good stories
All asexual and ace-spectrum identities are welcome - asexual, demisexual, gray-ace, questioning, aromantic, demi-romantic, and ace-adjacent folks of all genders and presentations.
This is an ace-centered space rooted in mutual respect, clear communication, enthusiastic consent, and press-free connection. Whether you're here for deep conversation, friendship, soft romance, or just to vibe with people who get it, the energy is affirming, intentional, and genuinely welcoming.
Everyone's pre-sorted: They show up, bought a ticket, and want to meet people tonight.
You meet several people in 90 minutes instead of texting one person for three weeks.
Hosted & moderated: Drag hosts keep it fun, the show runner keeps it moving, and the rules keep it safe.
No pressure to swap socials on the spot: Matches happen the next day via email.
Built-in follow-up: If you match, you're invited back to Cuff It for a featured first date.
This isn't a messy singles night. It's a mini queer dating lab with glitter.
Ready to give fate a little shove?
Pick your night on our Events page.
Choose your ticket (GA, VIP, Wingman).
Show up hot and on time.
Let us handle the rest.
Spots are limited to keep the experience intimate, so when a date opens: book it.
Join the next Cuff It: Ace Slow Dating Night ->
Let's get you out of the DMs and into the room.